There are so many broken homes - I know all about it. Does this sounds like yours?
Zzzzziiiiiip…CRASH!…and then the shattering sound of glass as Deidre hurls Al’s Playstation 3 from the 2nd story apartment window…followed by a shrill and sobbing “GET OUT!…GET OUT!…GET OooooUT!”
See, IT WAS THE LAST STRAW! Even though Al loved Deidre with all his heart…he had lied so often… had ignored Deidre so much that she just reached her boiling point that hot, muggy summer afternoon.
And Al did get out. Deidre was serious. She had had enough of Al’s ways. But see, Al was a good guy…a great guy even…he cared deeply and loved Deidre…and Deidre knew it too…but that wasn’t her problem. She was sick of feeling unappreciated…and Al just didn’t know what would make her happy anymore. He didn’t know how to wipe the slate clean…or start over…
And this WAS the end of Deidre and Al…forever…As it is the end of so many relationships…
But…Does it have to be?
What if you could recapture your ex lovers mind, heart and soul?…Wipe the slate clean? Turn back time? Even if you feel right now that your situation is too far gone…too screwed up …or just plain too darn complicated?
Are there ‘magic’ words you can use
to get your ex to return your phone calls?
Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words
that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex
feel almost compelled to return your call.
Cool huh?…
I am going to share this with you because
this is one of the biggest questions I get
from the over 35,000 subscribers just
like you that are trying to put their relationship
back together.
So I am going to answer…”How do I get
my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?”
BUT…
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WARNING!
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In the Magic of Making Up, I lay
out a complete strategy.
If you use this technique alone, without
an ‘overall’ plan or strategy…you may
damage your relationship more than if
they never returned your call.
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What NOT to Say!
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Before we get into the actual words, let’s
go over what message almost NEVER
works.
and worse…
Puts you in an AWFUL ‘psychological’ position.
These usually fall into 2 categories.
The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like
“John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd
time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.”
And the EMERGENCY-
“Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me
as soon as you get this.”
Now, I think you can see what is wrong with
both of those approaches?
So, I won’t go on and on…
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How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage
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Two of the most powerful forces in
the human mind are
*Curiosity &
*Self Interest
And here’s the BIG SECRET!
When you combine the two, you
have a recipe that WILL work ‘magic’
So…
Let’s look at what you can say
that works nearly EVERY TIME.
In a friendly tone:
“Hi John. It’s Cindy. I wanted to let
you know I appreciate what you did for
me. Call me because I want to thank you
in person.”
Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity
and self interest?
John will NOT be able to resist! “What did I do?”
“What does she appreciate?” he will be thinking. And
he feels good because it is a positive message.
Now…
Before you call you need to do the
“Set Up”…which is figuring out what
he/she did that you appreciate.
It can be any small thing…but needs to
be plausible.
But more importantly…
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2nd WARNING!
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Please have an underlying strategy
like I lay out in the Magic of Making up System BEFORE you call.
If you apply this technique with
no underlying strategy and they
call you back you can do more
DAMAGE than good if you do not
handle it correctly.
Okay?
What I am saying is…
What you do before, during and
after you get them to return your
call is MORE important than getting
them to return your call.
Make sense?
Have a plan and leave me a comment afterwards, no matter what time of the day it is. Watch the videos. I know, broken-hearted people stay up late, if they sleep at all…
Have a PLAN!
What do you do when you want to save your marriage?
There are many books and resources to help you in this area.
You must apply yourself with the same intensity that you
do to your career or your favorite passion to resolve
conflicts in a marriage. It can not be left to chance o
r one person trying to do all the patch work.
Two people were joined in holy matrimony,
two people are joined in horrible conflict at the same time.
Marriage can be wonderfully sweet, but it takes a
lot of effort and mutual respect. First, the parties
must know each other as well as possible. So many
people go into a marriage relationship half-blind with
love or lust and don’t have a clue what awaits them.
There must be more talking and less courting to
ensure that both parties do actually know what
the other person thinks about what-if situations.
No one can ever know everything that will come
into their path, but the big ones are interrelationships
with other family members, potential children , in-laws,
pets, career changes, thoughts on God and church
preferences and how to raise your children in the church.
All of these issues must be addressed because they will be
addressed by the naturral flow and rhythm of life itself.
Better to be prepared about how to agree to disagree
than to wait for constant conflict, stress and
comes when one is blindsided by a forced choice by
the other partner and where there is one way or the
highway. Don’t wait until that happens. Seek
pre-marital and marital counseling to work these
issues out fairly with an objective third party that
can help you sort out truth from fiction.
For more help click here.
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